Thursday, 22 July 2010

What makes an identity?

Sexuality
Gender
Appearance
Career
Culture
Friends
Lovers
Interests

I guess these are some of the things. Well at least the ones I am looking at. So lets use them to describe who I am. An Agendered Femaleish Demisexual, who is hoping to become a nurse. Culture is hard never really been stable in an area, so I guess a bit of a wanderer. Friends are all queer and I love them for that. They are each unique and interesting. And I love them, all. Lovers well the ones I have been with, I have let them treat me like crap, I guess that goes back to when I was a child. Yet I can fall for anyone if they have a nice personality, I have tried to out grow what I was basing everything on. And why I am so careful now. And finally Interests.
I am a geek, a nerd and all the other things that are related, and dead proud to be so.
So Agendered femaleish panromantic demisexual, wanderer, with great mates, who happens to be a massive geek!

And I know people will read this and be like Woah! Don't label yourself!

But I am talking about bits that are to do with my Identity so to the "Label Free people" sod you. In fact "Label Free" is guess what, another label! In fact labelling yourself as having an empty label and being free... so yeah work that out!

I have been thinking about stuff a lot as those who read will know, I need to figure out my priorities and stuff so that I can get to where I need to be in life. My tower of issues, needs to be torn down, and rebuilt, maybe as something more stable. I have good things in my life, so if I rearrange everything around them, use them as the foundations for the rest of my life.
Friends, Interests and the support of a few others. With that I can get back on my feet.

I am hoping money is sorted out by next Friday, so that I can go to Nottingham Pride. It would be nice to do something exciting again. And then I will go and see some of the brilliant mates I do have. Because that would be nice too.

Identity is a complex issue and there are many parts of it, and I know I could have covered it in other ways but I have selected the bits I needed to, or wanted too. But I can say this I am a rather complex person, and working out who I am and what I. I am a collection of bits and pieces from all over. Cobbled together to build someone not entirely beautiful but still wonderfully unique, and just slightly strange.

Queer is the best Label I can use if I am truly honest.

And no I will not say anything to him, I think he kind of has an Idea. But I value the friendship to ruin it by taking a risk. He is a lovely guy, but distance would hurt too much.